"I really do believe that women are supposed to get married and take care of the children and home. That's our highest calling, right?" - This was me at fifteen. I spoke these very words to a group of close friends who all sort of nodded and agreed as if we knew exactly what the 'role of women' was meant to be.
Fast forward to five years later - I remember meeting girls in University who shared the same faith as me, yet they also said they were feminists. I was kind of outraged, as I thought feminism was synonymous with man-hating and that faith and feminism could not and should not exist together. At that point in my life I had mainly been spending time with people who grew up in the same church as me and had dated people who seemed to agree with women as primarily homemakers. The men and women I started spending time with during University challenged me and inspired me. I started asking questions.
Now at the age of 24, my questions have sometimes overwhelmed me but I love exploring and asking because the more I talk about it, the more I realize other people in my life have similar questions. I have started to notice things that really upset me, but did not used to. For example, gender-based humour, especially in places of worship really disheartens me and I used to laugh at those kind of jokes. Similarly I have taken more notice of when teams are disproportionately male or female, or when the female voice is quieted or not valued as much.
I have some incredible influences in my life, and I am beyond thankful to live in a place where I can write freely about this and have people listen and respond. This month I am excited to share my personal experience, and research, as well as hear from friends who are passionate about finding a place for feminism in their lives. Some posts may be more provocative then others, and I hope that as you read you will see the benefit of hearing different perspectives.
I hope we will be challenged together and will not settle for the norm, but instead strive for integrity and hope.