Instagram. Facebook. Twitter. Email. IMessage. Snapchat. WhatsApp.
I have used all seven of these platforms to share photos of my son, view pictures of my friends babies, and also look at tons of babies that I have never met in person. Instagram has been a place online that helps take away some of the loneliness of being a stay at home mom. So many parents are constantly posting absolutely gorgeous photos of their everyday life and sharing so honestly about their struggles and celebrations. I have felt inspired reading their stories and seeing how they decorate their homes and dress their little ones.
But there is this question I have that I am afraid to address:
Should my four month old be online?
In the early weeks with Tennyson, I was really adamant that no one post anything about him on their social media accounts. Something about it made me feel like I had no control if I wasn't the one posting about him. I didn't like the feeling of his picture being out there for the whole world to view. I even messaged friends to delete pictures they had already posted. But if social media is for sharing about my life how can I not post about Tennyson? I literally spend all night and day with him and he is just the cutest little guy, you should see my phone's camera roll.
The thing I am really thinking about is I don't picture that we will allow Tenn to have his own social media until he is at an appropriate age, and when he does get into it I will want to teach him about privacy and boundaries. But if I've been posting about him his whole life is there really any privacy for him to protect? I honestly do not know the answer to this question.
Recently I have thought about ways I could protect his privacy, while sharing photos for friends and family to enjoy. I have come up with this list of things to check myself on before clicking 'share'. This list is for me, it's not a suggestion for everyone else :)
I am in no way suggesting that this be everyone's list, or that you even need to have a list. But if I'm honest with myself, my motivation for posting pictures is not always coming from a humble posture. I would be interested in hearing from others what their rules or boundaries are for sharing photos of kids, or if you don't think that's even necessary.